Monday, August 4, 2025
Justice is not judiciary dependent – Mediation and AI are the future of justice
Sunday, October 22, 2023
International Mediation Day - October 19, 2023
In this backdrop, 1975 saw the establishment of the Family Mediation Association (FMA) by Jim Coogler, Steve Erickson, and their peers. Coogler's pioneering book, "Structured Mediation in Divorce Settlement," acted as a beacon for this emerging field. His personal experience with a painful divorce process, one that resulted in significant personal and familial losses, became the catalyst for his advocacy. Initial skepticism was palpable, with critics questioning the potential of mediation, especially for high-conflict couples. However, the pressing need for a more compassionate approach for divorcing families was evident.
By 1981, a second influential body, The Academy of Family Mediators (AFM), was founded by John Haynes, Steve Erickson, and others. Initially, the AFM's focus was on providing divorce mediation training as a means of funding its establishment. The association rapidly expanded, offering a variety of member benefits by the mid-80s. By the mid-90s, its member base had ballooned to over 4,000 mediators and trainers.
The growth of mediation wasn't confined to family disputes. Other Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) entities like the Society of Professionals in Dispute Resolution (SPIDR), Conflict Resolution in Education Network (CRE-NET), National Association for Community Education (NAFCM), and the National Association for Mediation in Education (NAME), and many more, also saw significant growth. With primary funding from the Hewlett Foundation, these organizations continued to thrive until the late 90s. By 2000 Hewlett Foundation decided that it will fund only one umbrella organization. To consolidate resources, AFM, SPIDR, and CRE-NET merged to form the Association for Conflict Resolution (ACR). This merger brought together over 7,000 members, encompassing diverse practice areas.
The ACR's impact is evident in its establishment of Conflict Resolution Day in 2005, setting standards for school-based peer mediation programs in 2007, and its continued advocacy for peaceful conflict resolution. ACR drafted ‘Recommended Standards for school-based Peer Mediation Program, 2007 and many other standard documents for training, with a view to:
• Promote awareness of mediation, arbitration, conciliation and other creative, peaceful means of resolving conflict;
• Promote the use of conflict resolution in schools, families, businesses, communities, governments and the legal system;
• Recognize the significant contributions of (peaceful) conflict resolvers;
• Obtain national synergy by having celebrations happen across the country and around the world on the same day.
October, with its roots in the Latin word "Octo," means eight. October occupied the eighth place of a year when the year was made of ten months and 304 days. However, because of season calendar mismatch January and February were added and October became the tenth month, but it did not lose its name. Eight and October symbolizing fertility, prosperity, and peace, serves as a poignant month for such advocacy. This month sees global celebrations of peace and non-violence, especially with Gandhi Jayanti on October 2nd. In 2008, the American Bar Association (ABA) designated the third week of October a s 'ABA Mediation Week.' Recognizing the same spirit, both the ABA and ACR, along with numerous organizations, earmarked the third Thursday of October as International Mediation Day.
Wednesday, March 9, 2022
40 hrs, 5 days - Mediation Training Program – 05-09.03.2022
The journey of forty hours of mediation training through interactive sessions, spanning over five days have been one of the most absorbing, reflective and fascinating period for me. The journey with 26 most colourful, joyful, vibrant and creative colleagues and two trainers will be the most memorable moments for times to come.
It is not suddenly, that meditation is taking its roots deeper into the social psyche and is being promoted from the top. All this is a wave motion and we all have to move with it, choicelessly. As human being civilized they shifted from violent ways of dispute resolution by dual, ring fights, battles and wars to civil way of using the office of family head, tribe head, panchaayat or king, a neutral third party that was the advent of Legal Revolution 1.0.
In 1273, with the proclamation of Magna Carta the power to resolve disputes and pass decrees moved to Parliament constituted of the people, by the people and by the people. That marked Legal Revolution 2.0. Independent Judiciary became the repository of dispute resolution from Trial Court to Supreme Court to ICJ and that manifested Legal Revolution 3.0.
As several issues arose in court litigation, people moved to arbitration, conciliation and mediation which was Legal Revolution 4.0. This is where most of us are existing. Riding on the fourth wave, the human beings have moved to Fourth Dimension and Globalization 4.0, Fourth Industrial Revolution and Fourth Education Revolution, the new breaking ground is peace mediation marking the Legal Revolution 5.0.
Peace mediation as contradistinguished from mediation simpliciter, is not a process of merely deciding a dispute or disposing of a litigation by bringing about a settlement between the parties for the present. Peace mediation is a process of eliminating and eradicating the conflict itself, forever. The process entails exploring and exposing the error in understanding and perception, which formed the very basis of the disagreement that brought about the clash of interests. Quality Peace Agreement must result in combusting and resolving the base or substratum of the conflict forever.
Thursday, May 13, 2021
Peace Mediation - Legal Revolution 5.0
As a law of nature there exists fundamental similarities and characteristic differences amongst us. This dualism helps each individual to understand the commonality and have a multidimensional view of life, events, relationships and other things. The commonality between all human beings is to value human equality. All beings are created equal dehors gender, colour, caste, religion, family backdrop, social statues, IQ, EQ, SQ, and HQ. Differences exit to enable us to appreciate and respect the significance of meaningful co-existence and sustained harmonious relationship. All relationships are based on trust. Breach of trust gives rise to conflict.
Whenever the will of one person or a group of persons is supressed by another person or group of persons, for any reason what-so-ever, conflicts arises. There is no conflict till the suppression of will does not takes place. We all can all harmoniously co-exist happily, peacefully and perpetually enjoy the bliss of togetherness, without suppression or suppressing of will of another, that is being human.
However, time and time again, people continue to exhibit their superiority and power. Some people are ruthlessly ambitious, not for their own development, but for claiming being victorious and dominating others. Classic examples are Alexander, Arabs, Mughals, Julius Cesare, Napoleon, Hitler, European colonization and the like. They plunder and loot others who have worked hard and created more resources for themselves. Their army rape women and girls who have no way to defend themselves as war booty and they are called great. Sad but true
All technological development and marketing products, need basic raw materials. Countries with technological advancement create ways to get these resources at minimal costs or by illegal means. Gold dore, blood diamond, oil and minerals, wood and coal and also human resources are sought to be won or obtained at tiniest price. Some people have deep desire to dictate and control others and use them free or just for food, clothing and shelter, for their own comfortable and luxurious existence. This leads to economic exploitation, corruption, slavery, poverty, domestic violence, suicides and all forms of conflicts.
Generation after generation, people who exploit call themselves rich, educated, developed, strong and powerful. Those who were exploited are called poor, uneducated, underdeveloped, weak and fragile. This leads to insecurity, diffidence and a perception of inequality and bias, based on the barometer of money. As basic needs, which continue to ladder up, are never met and there is always deep pain and trauma within as contradistinguished from bliss and ecstasy.
The real conflicts are created by those who continuously perpetrate criticism, competition and comparison arising out of egoism, arrogance, lust and greed. On the other side are those who believe in co-existentialism, caring and creativity and make their best efforts to resolve the conflicts by gentleness, modesty and deep understanding of truth, which when does not find respect and reverence leads to disruptive encounters.
Communication is the greatest strength of human being. That is why we are called evolved. We can converse, talk and chat 24 x 7. We can tell others what we feel and think. Every conflict is capable of resolution, if people are reasonable, objective and are able to communicate and address their real issues, clearly, expressly and unambiguously. But people restrain as they feel and understand that there the communication will likely lead to escalation of conflicts than sorting them out. Inability to resolve conflicts gives rise to dispute. Unresolved conflicts gives rise to disputes and unsettled disputes gives rise to litigation, fights and wars.
As human being civilized it shifted from violent ways of dispute resolution by dual, ring fights, battles and wars to civil way of using the office of family head, tribe head, panchaayat or king, a neutral third party - Legal Revolution 1.0. With proclamation of Magna Carta (1273) the power to resolve disputes and pass decrees moved to Parliament - Legal Revolution 2.0. Independent Judiciary became the repository of dispute resolution from Trial Court to Supreme Court and that marked the advent of Legal Revolution 3.0.
Mediator uses specialized communication techniques during the dynamic, structured, interactive process and assists disputing parties in resolving the dispute between them. All participants are encouraged to actively participate in the process, vent out their grievances to enable mediator to reach to the bottom of the issue. Mediator focuses upon the needs, rights and long term interests of the parties during this party- centred process. Grievances relates to past conflicts. It’s like rear view mirror driving. Interests are futuristic, looking forward 2022, 2023, 2025. Mediation is to help parties change the whole outlook of dispute.
Mediator uses a wide variety of techniques as s/he guides the process in a constructive direction and to help the parties find their optimal solution. A mediator is facilitative and manages the interaction between parties and facilitates open communication without any vested interests and perceptions. He helps in breaking new grounds to have better relationship, live a better and happy life. Mediation is also evaluative as the mediator analyses issues and relevant norms ‘reality-testing’, while refraining from providing prescriptive advice to the parties ‘You should do...’ or ‘This may be better...’
Peace mediation as contradistinguished from mediation simpliciter, is not a process of merely deciding a dispute or disposing of a litigation by bringing about a settlement between the parties for the present. Peace mediation is a process of eliminating and eradicating the conflict itself, forever. The process entails exploring and exposing the error in understanding and perception, which formed the very basis of the disagreement that brought about the clash of interests. Quality Peace Agreement must result in combusting and resolving the base or substratum of the conflict forever.
